Arrogance

Something people build on, something people feel they can live on, something people feel great on!! Is that right, yes – it is true but these people are the ones that do not have importance of human values in their own lives. They live in their own shell of existence which is only tied to them in their small visionary circle of people – let it be their family or be it their few friends. What brought me to say this is every day I come across these characters in my life. Some feel great when they can romp up their voices and tell others about what they are doing without looking at themselves.

Typically those with big mouth often feel they can say what they feel like. The problem is they are given that authority to be like that without having a sense of how bad they hurt others in the way they shoot their words. Sometimes you do not need to hit someone to hurt but the way you put your words can be more harmful for the relationship they dwell on. This is not only related to friends, people at work, people in society but even within the families too. Arrogance does not just cause the hurt, it breaks the trust in the person and makes that person feel that these arrogant people are mindlessly selfish.

You can notice these people possibly are the ones who love their control over what they do although what they do is quite easily done by others. Sometimes the best way to deal with arrogant people is to prove them doing what they do without even saying a word to give them an idea of what they boast about all the time is something fairly easy to do. You would want to not get involved with these people as they are not kind or don’t want to show patience to listening to others. But hey, that does not end here – you cannot be the victim of this bullying(Partially that is what is happening) for long. For once you do feel it is harsh and hard to stop being nice all time without getting a feeling of this anger inside you against this arrogant person. You can simply rebound this upset feeling of yours by asking them “Is that really needed?” or “Where we heading doing this?” – Point is to intrigue and feel that what you are doing is right too.

Everyone in life has their own boat of responsibilities that they are on and getting bullied or dealing with arrogant people does not make it easier for you to stay cool. The whole point is you cannot change these people but you can help yourself to not get bullied across. Situations are to be dealt with calm and cool head but the cool does not really stays in the head when you get to come across these people. You would want to get out and away from these people but is not the resort because you will find them everywhere.

Love it or hate it, the reality and the depth of being arrogant is something we cannot deny on the face value of the person. It only appears after you have spent some time knowing someone with their kind words and harshest behaviors, the general people you don’t know on street and come across are often easy to forget then the regular ones you would tend to sit and work with. I also route the cause of arrogance to the upbringing of the child where he is not explained why to respect or see others at the same level.

You would wonder why am I writing this because I absolutely dislike people who feel being arrogant at the space of someone else and then act absolutely cool like nothing happened. I really wish people could understand, accept and behave more humanely than being blinded in their own world of “Oh, I do this” or “I bought this” or “You are not supposed to” – when they do the same things in all their times”. You may want to consider your options if you ever want to be known by others for your behaviour unless your entire world exists of arrogant people around you and you are made to be arrogant like them. This does not make you practically more better human but it does and will make you realise at some stage in life when it is too late that being arrogant is not the best you have done in all your lifetime.

13 thoughts on “Arrogance

  1. Amy June 21, 2013 / 9:57 pm

    You’re right about arrogance. You probably are talking to the ones who are not in the category…

    • FreeBird June 22, 2013 / 11:52 pm

      These are purely my expressions, does not mean it applies to ones here. They are just everywhere nothing personal with anyone.

      • Amy June 23, 2013 / 2:10 am

        I did’t think it applies to ones here… I thought maybe the ones need to read are not… Sorry about the confusion.

      • FreeBird June 23, 2013 / 2:52 pm

        It applies to both the parties. We can be arrogant or someone may be arrogant to us. We just need to know that we are part of these things.

  2. Live Love Be Green June 22, 2013 / 12:44 am

    Interesting topic of choice, Mani. I too come into contact almost daily, as we all do, with arrogant individuals. Some are even regulars on the scene. There are different levels of arrogance in my perspective. The worst being the bully or the “better than everyone” sort of individual. I think a big part of the equation has to do with how we allow ourselves to respond. Personally, I choose the route of being friendly and kind until the offending individual either leaves, reciprocates, or feels like a heel. That’s their choice. We all choose how we behave and think and I would like to believe that what comes around goes around.

    🙂 Melissa

    • FreeBird June 22, 2013 / 11:59 pm

      Absolutely true Melissa, but someone who is not considerate even after several times being nice, it’s not easy to breathe in that air. I know I can relate to your words but there is an end where things eventually break. But in this process I do not want to be hurt so much that I start becoming arrogant too. Difficult choices – we just have one life to live in the end.

      Cheers
      Mani 🙂

      • Live Love Be Green June 23, 2013 / 12:25 am

        Agreed. Sometimes distancing ourselves from the arrogance is the only way to stay true to ourselves. It is not necessary to allow oneself to be trampled on.

        Keeping kindness in our heart leads to a more enjoyable existence.
        Kind regards,
        Melis

      • FreeBird June 23, 2013 / 12:26 am

        Yup Melissa, the beauty of life is best when enjoyed in peace and calm together. We all need balance in life and love to keep it that ways.

        Best,
        M. 🙂

      • Live Love Be Green June 23, 2013 / 12:34 am

        Calm is needed but so are shenanigans and letting go with wild abandon. As you said…everything in balance.

        😉

      • FreeBird June 23, 2013 / 12:35 am

        Everything goes hand in hand 🙂
        Logic of ying yang

      • FreeBird June 23, 2013 / 12:45 am

        No worries, just the wp interface 🙂

      • Live Love Be Green June 23, 2013 / 12:35 am

        Calm is necessary, but so are shenanigans and letting go with wild abandon! Like you said…balance.

        😉

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