Arrogance

Something people build on, something people feel they can live on, something people feel great on!! Is that right, yes – it is true but these people are the ones that do not have importance of human values in their own lives. They live in their own shell of existence which is only tied to them in their small visionary circle of people – let it be their family or be it their few friends. What brought me to say this is every day I come across these characters in my life. Some feel great when they can romp up their voices and tell others about what they are doing without looking at themselves.

Typically those with big mouth often feel they can say what they feel like. The problem is they are given that authority to be like that without having a sense of how bad they hurt others in the way they shoot their words. Sometimes you do not need to hit someone to hurt but the way you put your words can be more harmful for the relationship they dwell on. This is not only related to friends, people at work, people in society but even within the families too. Arrogance does not just cause the hurt, it breaks the trust in the person and makes that person feel that these arrogant people are mindlessly selfish.

You can notice these people possibly are the ones who love their control over what they do although what they do is quite easily done by others. Sometimes the best way to deal with arrogant people is to prove them doing what they do without even saying a word to give them an idea of what they boast about all the time is something fairly easy to do. You would want to not get involved with these people as they are not kind or don’t want to show patience to listening to others. But hey, that does not end here – you cannot be the victim of this bullying(Partially that is what is happening) for long. For once you do feel it is harsh and hard to stop being nice all time without getting a feeling of this anger inside you against this arrogant person. You can simply rebound this upset feeling of yours by asking them “Is that really needed?” or “Where we heading doing this?” – Point is to intrigue and feel that what you are doing is right too.

Everyone in life has their own boat of responsibilities that they are on and getting bullied or dealing with arrogant people does not make it easier for you to stay cool. The whole point is you cannot change these people but you can help yourself to not get bullied across. Situations are to be dealt with calm and cool head but the cool does not really stays in the head when you get to come across these people. You would want to get out and away from these people but is not the resort because you will find them everywhere.

Love it or hate it, the reality and the depth of being arrogant is something we cannot deny on the face value of the person. It only appears after you have spent some time knowing someone with their kind words and harshest behaviors, the general people you don’t know on street and come across are often easy to forget then the regular ones you would tend to sit and work with. I also route the cause of arrogance to the upbringing of the child where he is not explained why to respect or see others at the same level.

You would wonder why am I writing this because I absolutely dislike people who feel being arrogant at the space of someone else and then act absolutely cool like nothing happened. I really wish people could understand, accept and behave more humanely than being blinded in their own world of “Oh, I do this” or “I bought this” or “You are not supposed to” – when they do the same things in all their times”. You may want to consider your options if you ever want to be known by others for your behaviour unless your entire world exists of arrogant people around you and you are made to be arrogant like them. This does not make you practically more better human but it does and will make you realise at some stage in life when it is too late that being arrogant is not the best you have done in all your lifetime.

To die or to kill yourself – Easier option

We are born for a reason that we all have something to achieve in this life. We are born without a name, without any education and without any sense of good or bad. It is our own inner sense that makes us grow with regards to the outside world in which we socialize. A lot of out character revolves around who we want to be. Sometimes our parents influence us to be who we are and at others we have got inspirations from our surroundings(Friends or heroes) or the society.

What brings me here today is to share an experience from a friend who is in the middle of a job while noticing how life unfolds. She feels what she experiences is not just the dead people but how they decide to leave this life. She is a nurse in a hospital where she sees a lot of people in their old age deciding when to leave. There is a huge sense of misdoing or emotionally speaking “Karma” revelations cause a huge burden before they can leave. Dying is not easier when you are carrying a load of emotions from your life that needs to be emptied before you are allowed to leave.

Out of many such experiences one experience that counts towards all this is – A man in his late 80’s who knows he has lost this battle with life but to all sorrows is suffering because he wants to go and is unable to go. He expresses his sorrow of how he had two families at the same time without the other knowing of it. The tone in his voice is not melancholic but rather of a desperate need to put this out of his soul to someone who has got an ear to listen. She listens to the story of this man and soon after he closes his eyes – She knows his soul has departed and he has been liberated. In this life we get chances to commit a lot of things – some that hurt others while giving you a lot of joy and happiness but these alive stories of people on deathbed reveal only one thing. All the joys that you collect in this life for the misery and pain of others will come back to you in some shape or form unknown to accept that you committed things which need to be left behind.

Just to add on the above note, that was just one man but she has experiences of several such people who she has noticed and listened to before they give up this life. She says dying becomes a struggle once your body has given up and your soul is not letting it go. The worst of a kind is when none of your close ones want to come and visit you. Does this give you a scary feeling of what is being reflected here. Obviously the need to die is challenged and over ridden by your karmas of doings that you accumulated in this life.

One does tend to reach great heights but there is enough evil in reaching those great heights. This is always reflected in how you leave this planet. Not one but of many greats the one who closes his eyes in peace are the greatest of the souls. There are people on this planet that feel the need to kill themselves by abruptly stopping their lives is a way to get rid of their doings is not such a great idea either. You can make yourself force to die but your jar of endless negative karma is not left unanswered. It follows you regardless you kill yourself or you lie down on the deathbed. The sense of emotions here is more about respecting the life and not of expressing the need.

Tony Scott, the great film director decided to jump after the bridge in Los Angeles today. I don’t reckon this frees the soul but rather you left your soul in a jail that it will carry into the next phase of realm. We live here and we die here – the doings of our life are reflected in how we decide to expand or broaden our definition of living.

Base of all this and more is just a vision of how we all should emphasize on what we do and what implications it has on the lives that surround us. We must not be blinded for just ”Me” instead of us in this world. I give my respect to all these souls and spirits to be in peace and let the others rest in peace too. Shall we say – Peace, love and happiness prevail.