Arrogance

Something people build on, something people feel they can live on, something people feel great on!! Is that right, yes – it is true but these people are the ones that do not have importance of human values in their own lives. They live in their own shell of existence which is only tied to them in their small visionary circle of people – let it be their family or be it their few friends. What brought me to say this is every day I come across these characters in my life. Some feel great when they can romp up their voices and tell others about what they are doing without looking at themselves.

Typically those with big mouth often feel they can say what they feel like. The problem is they are given that authority to be like that without having a sense of how bad they hurt others in the way they shoot their words. Sometimes you do not need to hit someone to hurt but the way you put your words can be more harmful for the relationship they dwell on. This is not only related to friends, people at work, people in society but even within the families too. Arrogance does not just cause the hurt, it breaks the trust in the person and makes that person feel that these arrogant people are mindlessly selfish.

You can notice these people possibly are the ones who love their control over what they do although what they do is quite easily done by others. Sometimes the best way to deal with arrogant people is to prove them doing what they do without even saying a word to give them an idea of what they boast about all the time is something fairly easy to do. You would want to not get involved with these people as they are not kind or don’t want to show patience to listening to others. But hey, that does not end here – you cannot be the victim of this bullying(Partially that is what is happening) for long. For once you do feel it is harsh and hard to stop being nice all time without getting a feeling of this anger inside you against this arrogant person. You can simply rebound this upset feeling of yours by asking them “Is that really needed?” or “Where we heading doing this?” – Point is to intrigue and feel that what you are doing is right too.

Everyone in life has their own boat of responsibilities that they are on and getting bullied or dealing with arrogant people does not make it easier for you to stay cool. The whole point is you cannot change these people but you can help yourself to not get bullied across. Situations are to be dealt with calm and cool head but the cool does not really stays in the head when you get to come across these people. You would want to get out and away from these people but is not the resort because you will find them everywhere.

Love it or hate it, the reality and the depth of being arrogant is something we cannot deny on the face value of the person. It only appears after you have spent some time knowing someone with their kind words and harshest behaviors, the general people you don’t know on street and come across are often easy to forget then the regular ones you would tend to sit and work with. I also route the cause of arrogance to the upbringing of the child where he is not explained why to respect or see others at the same level.

You would wonder why am I writing this because I absolutely dislike people who feel being arrogant at the space of someone else and then act absolutely cool like nothing happened. I really wish people could understand, accept and behave more humanely than being blinded in their own world of “Oh, I do this” or “I bought this” or “You are not supposed to” – when they do the same things in all their times”. You may want to consider your options if you ever want to be known by others for your behaviour unless your entire world exists of arrogant people around you and you are made to be arrogant like them. This does not make you practically more better human but it does and will make you realise at some stage in life when it is too late that being arrogant is not the best you have done in all your lifetime.

Love, Sex & Long Distance Relationship

Time and again, this question has been asked so many times for how to manage life when you are in love, want sex and have a long distance relationship. Recently, a friend of mine who happens to be in love had been separated from her boyfriend due to the regional boundaries and other facts based on native origin. The scenario in the question is not just about the fact that Love makes you go blind, Sex becomes a need and Long Distance a barrier. Addressing all three at the same time becomes even more interesting that we humans decide what we want and how we are going to get it that defines satisfaction.

You can easily define all three of them pretty good given you sort them individually. Challenge comes to shove when you are asked to define yourself in love added with need of fuelling sex drive and divide all of it with distance (may be borders) that keep you away.

Love is blind for the matter it is proven with time that you seek to understand what actually is love and what drives the love for you to live in love or out of love. Love brings in lot of responsibilities, understandings and ways to keep your life going that includes the benefits of togetherness. Love gives you a reason to enjoy life and bring lot of new things in your life regardless what your surroundings might be. All good gloomy things don’t last that long and wear out after a period of time. Of course people reading this blog who have been in love know it that Love slows down in the way you felt it the first time or was made to feel that way by your emotions. You defined new things in your life and made yourself feel comfortable with it. With time you moulded the things so much that everything else started to lose its charm and the eventual mend of the human brain took that turn and you move ahead of being in Love. Being practical here, Love wears out if you are too much in it for making yourself blind and stopping the freedom. For us humans’ falling in love is always easier than staying in it forever.

One thing leads to another the chain of human bonding needs that physical togetherness something which is hard coded into the genes of our desires and characteristics. Agree or not, we all have it within us. Some to say who are in love, it becomes more of chained process to live your desires, lust and sensual emotions with that one person they have been expecting it all the time. Again that weariness comes in sooner or later. Being true, for not that I have never looked out of a relationship – I have. I had a huge history of not being able to contain myself once because of my ex who was too possessive to even see me with another woman. She would throw tantrums that eventually lead me to get away from her. I got accepted in myself being human is more to be being yourself. If you are not yourself you are more or less living a life based on lies around you and your volcano of lies will erupt causing you all the hurt. Why hide it when you have it, I have not cheated on my partner but her being aware of who I am – she understands the fact it is more to personality than to the person. Defining it all may not be best since I already know many of you readers are going to come to the point – It doesn’t matter. It does depending on which gender of sex you are. Prolific thinking guys won’t accept it for all that given matter of fact to prove his innocence and a girl would not go that route for it’s against the typical society upbringing. Our taboos of do and don’ts when it comes to being in a society are generally not openly accepted. Hidden we live these desires and lock them down in the closed doors back our darkest corners. The three letter word becomes a good way to inspire you to stay in love or to be in love and seek no more. For those who seek to see beyond that are generally famed with various names of cheap and dirty levels since others can’t keep up with those thoughts. Sex is a part that some can contain and some cannot contain whether you are in love or ahead of love. To spice up things one is generally not to keen that it takes an effort of not one but two persons if especially you are in love. Anyways those lessons later on, the gist of everything here is being honest to your needs and desire is way above cheating and hiding yourself.

Now spice up the real excitement, add the long distance relationship to the love and sex part. Everything becomes even more spiced up knowing that part of the game is way incomplete in its real essence. Love has a meaning that is completed with sex being part of the package and then the real person in itself is way too far to complete this very interesting part of love life. Connected by the virtual life who can be separated in this world whether you live 2 hours away or 2000miles away given Skype, telephone and video conferencing is so much a part of our existence. Relationship remains where it was, you live in a shell of its own which is incomplete unless you really live together 24x7x365 routine to know whether you can exist together or not.

Bring in all the three – Love, Sex and Long Distance Relationship; in the picture again. Condition starts to add into everything would your partner want to understand you given you love him/her but you have desires that hang over you all the time. Now do you want to break it up for all the good or the bad things? Would you carry on the sailing ship till the next coast through the tides of high and low given you are on the platform which supports both its ends. In long distance relationships where you already know each other and are separated the fact of being honest, open and able to say yourself of your desires will not only keep you in safe haven it will also bond your relationship if it is for real.

Downsides of all this is hurt. One person knocking out the other out of a relationship/love or completely hiding the facts will all lead to an unrecoverable damage. You need to understand what all is involved when you set your feet on a boat that is sailing because of you two. When one bails out the other one would cease to sink or eventually battle out the braves all alone. Better keep in mind what you seek what you desire and if you can iron out your desires with distance that keeps you waiting for long.