Could the guys actually handle this. So far till now it has been the game on the other side of the gender and now here it becomes challenging. Good News – Yeah, definitely for the ladies but how many males could accept this in their heads. Though I feel happy that this could be really good for many and could be a disastrous beginning for many others who want to look for more in life without leaving their own boats.
Here is a good read for all those who have wanted to look beyond but never dared to because of the fear factor they carry for losing the one. But hey, why does it have to be with just the guys that they are considered sexually asking for more with other woman now here comes the “GOOD NEWS”
Click on the following article to read in-depth.
Answer is “WHY NOT” – why do we want to keep the best to ourself – The challenge begins !!
Hm, news you say? How about stories like this one: http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/2012/07/29/a-little-animal-pleasure/ . I’ve seen plenty of them with both men and women – pretty ‘old’ news really. We all have lots of desires, but some of us take more responsibility in controlling them while others let their ‘desires’ to rule their lives. It is as true now as it was true in the past, for both men and women. The choice was and is always ours, of course.
Very true indeed. Some are able to live happily sharing and some struggle lifetime to live with the real self till they understand what they desired never was there in their life. I do feel to understand the desires one must be free in mind, body and soul. 🙂
Very well said, FreeBird. Freedom in mind, body and soul… I’m not sure however whether allowing biological instincts to rule his/her life sets a person free or imprisons him/her, stopping from reaching other goals in life.
As Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs illustrates, the satisfaction of the physiological needs such as hunger, thirst and sexual drive is essential for the person to be able to proceed to higher levels – see details at http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/?s=maslow . That view has been supported for centuries by all major religions – see example from the Bible at http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/2012/07/31/it-is-good-for-a-man/
I’m not sure however whether ‘open relationship’ is an indicator of a more satisfactory sexual life. It might be just the opposite – an indicator of a person’s inability to fully satisfy the biological drives that pushes a person to changing partners. Strong deep bond, developed during the long-term relationship with one partner, might help to develop more satisfactory sexual relationship and allow a person to focus on higher needs and consciously selected goals in life, thus bringing ‘freedom in mind, body and soul’ – ‘free’ from unsatisfied physiological drives.
With regard to difference between males and females, check out Richard Brodie’s evolutionary perspective at http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/2012/12/14/selfish-gene-memes-and-sexism/ . 😉
Easier said than done Freebird…we humans have conditioned ourselves well, and then at times its the character, not conditioning alone…the needs…’individuality’ if you make ur mind race to a level where everything is free spirited…the desire to belong to one again will bounce back…u will not like to float like an aimless leaf, from one tree to the other…where everything is free spirited…such is desire of man…forbidden fruits sweeter once tasted or percieved…the reality takes another turn…and yet this is so debateable…its s process…where once u’ve walked thru it…u will have another set of wisdom…or points to ponder…eh heh…human emotions…growth…never ending…
Very very very beautifully explained. I guess I am mouth shut and totally in agreement to each single word you wrote here. This is what the human life is all about – the never ending search for emotions, growth .. eh eh eh….. human – we 😀 .. I know 😀
Human me is just bit greedy for more – so shall I kill myself – I am surely not going to do it for I reach the point of feeling – I am ready to go to himalayas and give up the luxuries of life – One day – who knows.
hugs to you 🙂
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Very well said, Destiny Queen. I got inspired by FreeBird to do a bit of research on that subject and it looks like a ‘sweet fruit’ desired in our dreams and fantasies might turn out pretty bitter in reality. See details at http://otrazhenie.wordpress.com/2013/08/16/open-marriage-happy-marriage/
Similar to the grass which is always greener on the other side of the fence, the forbidden fruits are often sweeter until they are tasted 😉
It is not in the saying but the media and social openness these days has its own say of things. One needs to know what their boundaries are – the social stigmata – the acceptance and their own life. Sweet fruit is always sweet and bitterness part of it. Some will take the fruit without feeling it bitter and without losing its sweetness if it was already accepted and understood by them.
One must be on the other side to know how real this is. Now the question arises, how many ever dared to taste this fruit .. 😉 sweet or bitter is the thing that comes later on .. lol 😀
I like your free spirit, FreeBird, as I am myself a rebel by nature especially when it comes to prejudices, stereotypes and social stigma. I was strongly advocating for ‘open relationship’ in my first relationship with a truly amazing person that lasted for 4 years. I felt like a total idiot when I met that person 10 years later and was asked whom I actually had that ‘open’ relationship with. I knew that my partner never looked at anyone else while we were together and I thought that my partner also knew that I had no one else in my life at that time. It turned out that my partner spent all that time and 10 years afterwards still trying to understand what was all this ‘open relationship’ about…
While tasting all the fruit in your life, don’t miss the precious gem. They are hard to find and easy to lose 😉 .
yes yess yess… oh yes – it is absolutely true to find someone with whom you can enjoy this precious journey otherwise it just becomes an dead path to tread through. Nothing really stops us being who we are except our inner inhibitions and social stigmatas.
I am glad to hear about your journey 🙂 The gem is forever a gem and can never be replaced – I know what is precious while rest is all come and go as a journey that we meet several and many leave but few leave their footprints forever 🙂
True. And all these wonderful experience, all the amazing gems we meet in our lives provide important lessons and influences and make us who we are. Later on in this journey a little leaf, blown around from tree to tree, might turn into a beautiful tree – a happy one, well rooted in all past experiences with branches extending to a joyful future, radiating peace and providing shelter to whoever might come. A tree that does not care about fashion trends or opinions of others and just leads its own life in its own way. Enjoy your journey. 🙂
Very true again, so does this bird. From one change to next and to another. Life is a beautiful journey and we all shall cherish this beautiful path which we can full with peace, love and joys. 🙂
Thank you Otrazhenie 🙂 Wishing you a wonderful journey too.
Thank You Otrazhenie…
Once again after reading this…article, I feel its something like when plastic was discovered…scientists said nuthing as grt as this material…and then suddenly bounced back it harms nature…blah blah…
Same applies to humans, we atleast those who understand -that psychologists have accumulated over research some facts, but is that research really so genuine that we follow, do I understand that our individual needs are confined to a handful of researchers or books or theres something beyond that…
Coming to the point-its human fact that we are conditioned since childhood, what if we were not conditioned and told what is wrong and what is right? We would be living like the cave men…where it all started with lust, and then the satisfaction of lust that brought satiation with emotions, hence it took a turn, of BONDING…Marriage/Lovers/Affairs whatever, where they dont want to lose that partner, or bond that gives satiation…
Now-About satiation-Humans are animals-finer class…we have vast variations/needs/desires/requirements-one can compromise on certain emotions, but then not all…hence the rut and run of trying various dimensions…giving it new forms and names…
End of it all…it holds where the satiation is more in most of the senses…this partner wins…whether they are hiding facts/accepting facts/denying facts…The thrill is forbidden fruits are sweeter, humans take chances and are excited with adventure…
So one character may accept a certain behaiviour of expression which may not be suitable for the other…end of it all…all these social rules…are crumbling, the conditioning being challenged…and believe it or not…its never ending..as human psychology can twist with a mere event/incident in life….these debates are as vast as our human ocean..
Wow…Now I wonder if I make sense…anyways nice to read various thoughts…and then another series of debates will arise…satiation has a vast boundry…many may not know it exists…intellectual…emotional…physical…which can actually tunr the entire face of a bond in another dimension…what say of the depth of humans? Vast, Vast….very vast it is….Cheers!!
Holy wow wow wow…. now this was very inspiring and worth a good read, not once but even thrice. Wait till the next topic, you would love to read that. This is getting in hotter now. The media suddenly has also caught up on it and the world now has moved ahead from partners to couples. Wait and watch and read the next post 🙂
love n hugs to you 🙂
Thank You Otrazhenie…
(Once again after reading this…article)…The above
long write up was after reading the article you have posted in your site….
Freebird…partners to couple…couples to this and then that…cant you see…it is more like a fashion statement a trend…once again conditioning of a different order…let the world loose, humans get hurt and then suddenly seek for a compromised…collective bond which gives security…as they have tasted bitterness….yet monkey around when their bond lacks a certain degree of another emotion/lust/intelligence….initial bond is there yet after a period of time the empty pockets within which cant be filled will be seeked…given a chance or if not given a chance eh heh….humans seek security and yet freedom…and its not for one species its both….depends who is seeking what at a given period of time….now if you make combinations of various aspects believe me it is a maze…and one takes an entire life to understand…and then what? Nuthing matters Haa haaaaa amen!!
Monkey around, I love it. You know you are making me love this post as this gets more and more intense now. Lovers to ashes to dust … hihihiiiii… maze with a lot of haze in it. Nothing really matters and it does but we all are going to same place in the end. You know – where to find me 🙂 … Amen
Lovers to ashes to dust…this is a genuine emotion….when both are intensely in love…this makes sense, and holds meaning too…so u see…its again another point to ponder..it holds gravity at that moment they both are facing…amen!!
Amen 🙂 .. Amen 🙂